Monday, August 25, 2008

Homosexual elCairo

Reading Elaswany's Yacoubian Building, I was surprised with the way he portrayed homosexuality in elCairo. I always felt it was very uncommon, but as I looked into this and talked with people who have gay friends, I realized that the homosexual community is alive and well. I'm fine with that, except with one thing. I find it very strange that many young men chose their sexuality without even having a chance of a healthy straight relationship.

Let me explain, I understand that many feel that you are either born straight or gay. Though I am not totally convinced with that, let's assume that's true for the argument's sake. So, assume a dude living in a Western country is born gay but still is confused about his sexuality. This dude will have the choice to try a healthy straight healthy relationship and see how things go, if all is well, great. If not, then he knows he's gay. That is clear to me and I'd respect that dude's choice.

Problem is, you can't really map this scenario to elCairo. It's a very conservative society and my gut feeling is that more than 90% of the population never have the chance for a healthy straight relationship before marriage. And by healthy I mean a couple, who have feelings for each other, having a physical relationship. So, no, buying your friend a hooker does not count. Therefore, the majority of the dudes who 'think' they are gay, will never -eitherway- get a chance to try out a healthy straight relationship.

So in a weird way, elCairo is like a big all-male prison for many of the young guys out there.Weak-minded, sexually frustrated and with no viable option for a healthy straight relationship, many drop their soap and take a deep breath. Sad, if you ask me.

14 comments:

Jade said...

Very well said... I totally agree!

Feshfesh said...

ugh... typical... expats like you criticizing elCairo. You disgust me.

...and no, I don't count since I blogged this piece while I'm physically in elCairo!

Ha! Got you on a technicality!

Jade said...

Oh no!!
You really got me there.
*yawn

Feshfesh said...

Oh you just wait until a zealously religious Egyptophile visits this post :))))

We'll be both on his trolling list! :D

madwomaninatic said...

here i am! the zealously religious, egyptophile! how dare you speak like this about my homosexual/frustrated/perverted/pedophilic/impotent fellow countrymen/women!

you, feshfesh, are in TROUBLE!

(where's the rest of the zubrowka? need to get drunk at least one more time before ramadan!)

Feshfesh said...

Damn it...wasn't me?

And the Zubrowka is done man, I can offer you chilled Satan's Piss, what do you think?

Eureka said...

homosexuality? Egypt? Huh? what? I did not have sexual relations with that woman.

No blasphemous talk of sodomites in Egypt you infidel!

That zealot-like enough for you?

Feshfesh said...

*Fesh drifts into a girl-on-girl fantasy...

zeinab said...

hmm. Your hypothesis is fine, but isn't it pointing out the obvious that it also means that all straight men have the same problem, since a healthy straight relationship is so difficult to find, and a homosexual one so taboo? I think alot of people end up doing what's easier, and more likely straight than gay guys, because I am sure life in Cairo isn't exactly pimpin for the local gay community.

Feshfesh said...

Well, yeah. Cairo is up there on the list when it comes to sexual harassment because of the sexual frustration. Do you remember this mass harassment that happened during one of the past eids?

But my point,as you eloquently summed it up, was: people end up doing what's easier. This is the surprising piece, since one's sexuality shouldn't be a matter of what's easier!

BaTaBeeT said...

let everyone choose who they wanna be as long as they don't do u harm... that's how I live with the case... and I'm totally non-homophobic with many many homosexual friends... :D
and who told u they haven't tried?

the point im not sure about just yet.. if they are born like so or the circumstances has switched their sexuality...

and I mentioned in a recent post...
I remembered a conversation I had with a psychiatrist friend… He informed me that females are naturally born bisexuals, however the community adijusts their sexual orientation to be what they are… mostly bisexuals still :D


yalla mesh mohem... kol wa7ed yenam 3la el "ganb" eli yeraya7o :D

Feshfesh said...

*clears throat...

Do tell more about the Lesbian-by-nature theory...

BaTaBeeT said...

LOL
what's with guys and lesbians ? :D

u can google it thou

Feshfesh said...

Ugh. Such a tease.